Re: Rebellion is an illusion of power

Love the extending thought dad :)

On Fri, Dec 9, 2022, 1:45 PM Lindy Taylor <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com> wrote:

Nice thoughts Paul!

On Fri, Dec 9, 2022, 11:09 AM Paul Taylor <paul@gideontaylor.com> wrote:

I do like the idea of building trust with yourself, I've seen that it works and it matters, and I do like brain chemistry hacks. I think this process is so much more meaningful if the Savior is part of it. The problem with building a relationship of trust just with myself is, can I trust myself to be understanding when I inevitably fall short of my expectations? My personal answer is that there is no room for me to stand between the extremes of being so forgiving to myself that I let myself slide too much, and having such rigid expectations that I can't avoid self-condemnation.

When it is the Savior with whom I am building trust and the Savior I'm asking for forgiveness, He always gives me somewhere to go that I can succeed. His forgiveness is lovingly conditional. He requires me to reflect, to soften, and to commit; then His acceptance is revealed unmistakably. It is much harder for me to condemn myself when I know the Savior would not. I trust His judgment much more than my own.

Also, passing on self-indulgence to build His trust is much more rewarding than building my own trust. The only trust I truly need in myself is that I will keep choosing Him. Everything else I can trust He will help me with.

Not an objection to Brooke's thought; just an extension. 😃

Love you all!

Paul / Dad

On Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 3:06 PM Lindy Taylor <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com> wrote:

Dear Family,

Brooke is a friend of mine from highschool.  I liked her thoughts here about building a relationship of trust with yourself.

I thought you might enjoy them also.

Much love,

Mom (Lindy)

From: Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC <Brooke@brookeoniki.com>
Date: Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 2:58 PM
Subject: Rebellion is an illusion of power
To: <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com>

View in browser When you make a commitment to yourself (let's say you commit to not snacking between meals) and then you feel an urge to eat a sweet treat, your brain may offer you a thought like, "It doesn't matter! You can do whatever you want!" In that moment, you will feel a sense of power in rebelling against your original plan.  It feels freeing and exciting.  But that feeling is only temporary.  It is a false sense of power.   When you make a commitment to yourself and then break it over and over again, it weakens your relationship with yourself. The true power comes when you recognize that keeping a commitment to yourself builds your relationship with YOU.  It is a drop in the bucket of self-trust.  You begin to believe that you are a person that follows through on your word to yourself.  You believe that you are important enough to keep a commitment to.  That temporary dopamine hit for rebelling against your original plan is replaced with feelings of emotional well-being and self-respect.   The ability to keep commitments to yourself is something that grows over time. Just like everything, the more you practice, the easier it gets.   Next time your brain tells you, "It doesn't matter" and you feel this rush of excitement from deciding to rebel against yourself, take a step back and think about it again.    I like to ask myself, "What will I gain from this choice?"  That helps me make a decision that is for my higher good.   This isn't about eating snacks.  It about honoring your word to yourself and the relationship it creates.  It's a beautiful thing!      Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC PO Box 98203, South Jordan UT 84095 United States Unsubscribe

Re: Rebellion is an illusion of power

Nice thoughts Paul!

On Fri, Dec 9, 2022, 11:09 AM Paul Taylor <paul@gideontaylor.com> wrote:

I do like the idea of building trust with yourself, I've seen that it works and it matters, and I do like brain chemistry hacks. I think this process is so much more meaningful if the Savior is part of it. The problem with building a relationship of trust just with myself is, can I trust myself to be understanding when I inevitably fall short of my expectations? My personal answer is that there is no room for me to stand between the extremes of being so forgiving to myself that I let myself slide too much, and having such rigid expectations that I can't avoid self-condemnation.

When it is the Savior with whom I am building trust and the Savior I'm asking for forgiveness, He always gives me somewhere to go that I can succeed. His forgiveness is lovingly conditional. He requires me to reflect, to soften, and to commit; then His acceptance is revealed unmistakably. It is much harder for me to condemn myself when I know the Savior would not. I trust His judgment much more than my own.

Also, passing on self-indulgence to build His trust is much more rewarding than building my own trust. The only trust I truly need in myself is that I will keep choosing Him. Everything else I can trust He will help me with.

Not an objection to Brooke's thought; just an extension. 😃

Love you all!

Paul / Dad

On Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 3:06 PM Lindy Taylor <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com> wrote:

Dear Family,

Brooke is a friend of mine from highschool.  I liked her thoughts here about building a relationship of trust with yourself.

I thought you might enjoy them also.

Much love,

Mom (Lindy)

From: Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC <Brooke@brookeoniki.com>
Date: Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 2:58 PM
Subject: Rebellion is an illusion of power
To: <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com>

View in browser When you make a commitment to yourself (let's say you commit to not snacking between meals) and then you feel an urge to eat a sweet treat, your brain may offer you a thought like, "It doesn't matter! You can do whatever you want!" In that moment, you will feel a sense of power in rebelling against your original plan.  It feels freeing and exciting.  But that feeling is only temporary.  It is a false sense of power.   When you make a commitment to yourself and then break it over and over again, it weakens your relationship with yourself. The true power comes when you recognize that keeping a commitment to yourself builds your relationship with YOU.  It is a drop in the bucket of self-trust.  You begin to believe that you are a person that follows through on your word to yourself.  You believe that you are important enough to keep a commitment to.  That temporary dopamine hit for rebelling against your original plan is replaced with feelings of emotional well-being and self-respect.   The ability to keep commitments to yourself is something that grows over time. Just like everything, the more you practice, the easier it gets.   Next time your brain tells you, "It doesn't matter" and you feel this rush of excitement from deciding to rebel against yourself, take a step back and think about it again.    I like to ask myself, "What will I gain from this choice?"  That helps me make a decision that is for my higher good.   This isn't about eating snacks.  It about honoring your word to yourself and the relationship it creates.  It's a beautiful thing!      Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC PO Box 98203, South Jordan UT 84095 United States Unsubscribe

Re: Rebellion is an illusion of power

I do like the idea of building trust with yourself, I've seen that it works and it matters, and I do like brain chemistry hacks. I think this process is so much more meaningful if the Savior is part of it. The problem with building a relationship of trust just with myself is, can I trust myself to be understanding when I inevitably fall short of my expectations? My personal answer is that there is no room for me to stand between the extremes of being so forgiving to myself that I let myself slide too much, and having such rigid expectations that I can't avoid self-condemnation.

When it is the Savior with whom I am building trust and the Savior I'm asking for forgiveness, He always gives me somewhere to go that I can succeed. His forgiveness is lovingly conditional. He requires me to reflect, to soften, and to commit; then His acceptance is revealed unmistakably. It is much harder for me to condemn myself when I know the Savior would not. I trust His judgment much more than my own.

Also, passing on self-indulgence to build His trust is much more rewarding than building my own trust. The only trust I truly need in myself is that I will keep choosing Him. Everything else I can trust He will help me with.

Not an objection to Brooke's thought; just an extension. 😃

Love you all!

Paul / Dad

On Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 3:06 PM Lindy Taylor <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com> wrote:

Dear Family,

Brooke is a friend of mine from highschool.  I liked her thoughts here about building a relationship of trust with yourself.

I thought you might enjoy them also.

Much love,

Mom (Lindy)

From: Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC <Brooke@brookeoniki.com>
Date: Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 2:58 PM
Subject: Rebellion is an illusion of power
To: <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com>

View in browser When you make a commitment to yourself (let's say you commit to not snacking between meals) and then you feel an urge to eat a sweet treat, your brain may offer you a thought like, "It doesn't matter! You can do whatever you want!" In that moment, you will feel a sense of power in rebelling against your original plan.  It feels freeing and exciting.  But that feeling is only temporary.  It is a false sense of power.   When you make a commitment to yourself and then break it over and over again, it weakens your relationship with yourself. The true power comes when you recognize that keeping a commitment to yourself builds your relationship with YOU.  It is a drop in the bucket of self-trust.  You begin to believe that you are a person that follows through on your word to yourself.  You believe that you are important enough to keep a commitment to.  That temporary dopamine hit for rebelling against your original plan is replaced with feelings of emotional well-being and self-respect.   The ability to keep commitments to yourself is something that grows over time. Just like everything, the more you practice, the easier it gets.   Next time your brain tells you, "It doesn't matter" and you feel this rush of excitement from deciding to rebel against yourself, take a step back and think about it again.    I like to ask myself, "What will I gain from this choice?"  That helps me make a decision that is for my higher good.   This isn't about eating snacks.  It about honoring your word to yourself and the relationship it creates.  It's a beautiful thing!      Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC PO Box 98203, South Jordan UT 84095 United States Unsubscribe

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Dear Family,

Brooke is a friend of mine from highschool.  I liked her thoughts here about building a relationship of trust with yourself.

I thought you might enjoy them also.

Much love,

Mom (Lindy)

From: Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC <Brooke@brookeoniki.com>
Date: Thu, Dec 8, 2022 at 2:58 PM
Subject: Rebellion is an illusion of power
To: <lindyjtaylor@gmail.com>

View in browser When you make a commitment to yourself (let's say you commit to not snacking between meals) and then you feel an urge to eat a sweet treat, your brain may offer you a thought like, "It doesn't matter! You can do whatever you want!" In that moment, you will feel a sense of power in rebelling against your original plan.  It feels freeing and exciting.  But that feeling is only temporary.  It is a false sense of power.   When you make a commitment to yourself and then break it over and over again, it weakens your relationship with yourself. The true power comes when you recognize that keeping a commitment to yourself builds your relationship with YOU.  It is a drop in the bucket of self-trust.  You begin to believe that you are a person that follows through on your word to yourself.  You believe that you are important enough to keep a commitment to.  That temporary dopamine hit for rebelling against your original plan is replaced with feelings of emotional well-being and self-respect.   The ability to keep commitments to yourself is something that grows over time. Just like everything, the more you practice, the easier it gets.   Next time your brain tells you, "It doesn't matter" and you feel this rush of excitement from deciding to rebel against yourself, take a step back and think about it again.    I like to ask myself, "What will I gain from this choice?"  That helps me make a decision that is for my higher good.   This isn't about eating snacks.  It about honoring your word to yourself and the relationship it creates.  It's a beautiful thing!      Brooke Oniki Life Coaching, LLC PO Box 98203, South Jordan UT 84095 United States Unsubscribe

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